Your choice determines your future

We take thousand of decisions and may be more than that in our sub conscious mind every singe day. What we do in our decisions is choose ... we choose every single second what we gonna do next, we choose what we think, we choose whom we are with , we choose every single thing. Some of these are informed decisions on what we think more and some of them are very impulsive and quick. Decisions of choice is what we do and these things are all depends on what are priorities in life is and all this will determine what will our future will be , how it would look like. If we can make our choices right, we will head in the right direction and will achieve what we aim for in anything we want to do.

We even choose every single word we speak, these thought process are so quick and so often that we dont even realize that we took a decision to speak one word instead of other. Millions of thought process within the super processor of our body called Brain.

Our choices will make us succeed or will lead us to failure...

Who to admire or blame for this.. Nobody else its you.. Yes you only got inspired or got influenced by somebody in a positive or a negative way.. But at the end of the day its you,  who took the decision..

So be proud of your success and don't blame others for your failure..Learn from your own and others mistake, so that you are are able to make better decisions kin future... Success does not come easily and is like a stranger, when it will meet us , it wont teach us any lesson .... On the other hand failure is like our true friend /family which will teaches us lesson.. Scold or guide us when we do something  wrong.. So we can better things next time... Failure is not a negative term,  but its inspiration to achieve better results next time....

Do we stop talking to our family and friends when they advise or suggest something we did wrong...!!! or fot that matter Do our friends and family will stop scolding/suggesting for our next mistake .. no matter how we treat them ... No they wont... Because they want our good..... and so as Failure... So always treat Failure as your true friend who always shows you a path to success....

Success is sweet, shy and reserved ... Your have to approach and try hard to achieve it ... 

And

Failure is bold , outspoken and very bitter but what lessons it teaches you only help you in achieving higher success ....

As Thomas Edison said : "I failed my way to success" 

And who does not know how many times Edison has failed before he mastered and conquered success and changed our life forever..So, really how sooner or later you succeed will mostly depends on how much did you learn from your failure... Failures is almost like one more step on the road which leads to success..

Steps of failure leading to success

As also mention in one of the most inspirational books I have read (The monk who sold hie Ferrari) which can bring improvement in anybody's life and make the journey of life a more rewarding and fulfilling.

" 'There are no mistakes in life,

only lessons. There is no such thing as a negative experience, only

opportunities to grow, learn and advance along the road of selfmastery.

From struggle comes strength. Even pain can be a

wonderful teacher.' "

So make the right choices whether it is about taking a decision, choosing a friend, accepting failure as learning experience and trying that one more time.


Whatever you do or get involved in "Your choices and only your choices will determine your future....."


Good Luck :)

Finding the Right Direction

Everyone dreams but only a few dare or I would say are capable enough to really achieve them. People have different skill set and hence potential of doing certain things in certain way and also to certain limit. I believe it is not about what you are, rather it is more about what you can be. How much you can strive to unleash that potential in you, take that pain to reach the target you set for yourself, to fulfil the dreams you have dreamt of.

Like I wrote in my blog :

Impossible' is just a big word thrown around by few small men who find it easier to live in the world they have been given than to explore the power they have to change it.

Impossible is not a fact. It is an opinion.

Impossible is not a declaration . It's a dare. Impossible is potential.

I believe impossible is nothing. It’s not what it is, it is how you see it is. "I m possible "

Coming back to my point, many of us make the efforts but they are scattered, and they are into pieces or into different directions. A force of a water pushed with a right pace and direction can move the turbine fast enough to produce Electricity (Goal achieved).

One can be motivated enough to achieve his goals, dreams and even put it into action, but what will make his/her dream come true is the combined action in the right direction.

When we say 'unity is strength'; It applies to an individual as well, if you prove unity in your actions and put it in the right direction, you will have enough strength to achieve your goal.

If you live for your goals you definitely need a road ahead (directions) to reach the goal that you have aimed for.

As mentioned in the great book Think and Grow Rich

"Knowledge is Potential Power , It becomes power only when if it is organised into definite plans of actions and directed to a definite end.

Knowledge is will not attract money unless it is organised and intelligently directed trough practical plans of actions to definite end of accumulation of money."

Think
+Concentrate

+Plan

+ Strategise

+ Action

+ Evaluate

+ Action

+ Revaluate
= Success

How to achieve something what you aim for - Should and Must

Everybody has a desire to achieve something or the other in life. The desires in life can be anything from reaching the top of Mt. Everest to mere just reaching the top of a hill. Most of the people do have a desire to earn more money and achieve success in their professional lives.

"Desire", "Will" and "Ability" together is needed for completing something that you aim for.

Most of the people have a desire but how strong is that desire that they are willing to take that extra step and are capable enough to do it. Some people who have studied Economics can relate to what I am talking here. Yes, I am relating to the definition of demand. When your desire is absolute must you have to have the other 2 things to support that desire i.e. Will and Ability.

Everybody has a dream and many live in it but how many of them really step out of it and take some actions willingly and achieve them in reality. Yes you are right - NOT MANY

Also what really differentiates 'should' and 'must' is - when you say you should , it is vague , doesn't have a set target , doesn't have a time limit.

But when you say it is a must - It is clear, has a set quantified target and of course has a time limit in which one needs to achieve it.

So if you desire something, desire that strong that you are willing to initiate the actions and be motivated and focussed enough to achieve it in targeted time .If the wish is not backed by burning desire than it only remains as a wish.

All the best!

Luck only follows the people who work hard.

My favourite saying - " It is in the moments of your decision that your destisny is shaped - Choose wisely (By Anthony Robbins )

Definition of Success

Definition of Success is very personal and varies from person to person. But the key attributes for success in anything remains the same.

Success demands hard work

Success demands patience

Success demands willingness

Success demands Self motivation

Success demands focus

Success demands defining priorities

Success demands belief in what you are doing and being optimistic.

Success demands change if needed

Success demands correction and improvement

Success even demands innovation (doing things out of box)

I think people who have achieved success in anything can relate to these aspects in one way or the other.

As it is rightly said "Success is a journey and not a destination"

I like the definition of success so clearly defined by Vic Conant's (chairman of Nightingale-Conant)

Success is not a matter of luck, circumstance or fate, but a direct consequence of having specific, measurable goals with a plan of action to achieve them.

So, these attributes we not only need in ourselves ,at any one point in time but at all times. And I think the  key ingredient is 'Belief' ,if you believe in something everything else will follow.

If you believe, you will be motivated enough to do the hard work and able to focus and define the priorities, and change things for better after evaluating. Also it will help you in being patient in what you do,  try to think out of box to be different and hence achieve success.

Continuously believing in something is not an easy task because it causes a lot of pain when things go wrong and we want to quit becasue thats an easier option rather than continuosly taking the pain . We tend to see short term benefit rather than seeing what we can achieve if we pursue our dreams that we believe in. When we believe in something, we have the faith that it would give us the best of what we deserve if we keep on giving our 100 % to it. Success is usually a step away when you choose to give up, and it is ok to be tired. All big achievements came after ridiculous number of failure.

As it is said and proved time and again "Most of the people quit at 99 % "

But yes it is human to quit if things do not go right even after trying everything. Qutting is not essentially forgetting our dreams and not following them anymore. Rather, it should be about finding alternative ways , different strategies or may be doing a different thing altogether. Something that would give us the same satisfaction and success which the first one would have given , had things gone well and we would have achieved what we aimed for.

My Defintion of Success :

"If you have not succeeded that means you have not tried hard enough"

Its quite related to the quote .

Losers try and Winners do it.

or

Winners do what losers refuse to try!"

Everybody tries and not all win. Winners are those who try that extra bit ,that final bit stretching ourselves to do what will get success."Tough Times Never Last but Tough people do" and these are the people who act differently, see differently and do things differently and achieve success following and believing their Dream Path.

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Live in Today

Think about Past ----------Live in Today --------------Plan for Future

Past

Learn Lessons and Get on with your life.

Life is grey and hazzy there.

Future

Think less and give more time to act.

Life is foggy and freezing there.

Present/Today

Live every moment of your life as if there is no tomorow .

Life is green and Beautiful.

There is only so much one can do in a whole life, a whole year or a whole day for that matter. You can always do more by being efficient in what you do but still you will always have the same amount of time.

What I am trying to stress upon is that the human mind is built up of a very complex mechanism in which millions of thoughts are getting processed at the same time , some in conscious and some in the sub conscious mind. We tend to think either about the past of what happened or plan for future of what we can do. It's always good to take the learning from your past mistakes and planning the right strategy so we can get better next time.But what about today? Are we living our lives in past or in present? Are we dedicating enough time to our present...to what it is today... Now... As the song goes in hindi ( my native language)

"Aane wala pal jaane wala hain.. ho sake to isme zindagi bita lo ... pal jo yeah jane wala hain.. "

The basic theme of the song is that "Live in this very moment of life because this moment will fly away. Live your life to the fullest each moment each day"

I know what I am writing may not be true to some people , rather it is hard even for me, to preach this.

But really speaking in this race for achieving more, we even fail to remember our most important bit we have to have the time for enjoying this very moment... may be seeing it as a reward for the hard work you did in the past .....Its not necessary that one should win and only then be rewarded . You can always reward yourself by getting time out of that busy life and relax your mind. Your effieciency will improve when you come back from that break. After all we are humans, and we also need break (rest ) so that our mind can work effectively and efficiently.
So sometimes its good, not to think and Live the life which God has given you to the fullest.... the moment s which you can live in now . Like it is Said..
Life Should not be long , it should be big :-) (from the Movie Anand : Zindagi Lambi nahin Badi honi Chaiye)